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The Curse of an Attraction to Older homosexual Men. Thomas Gass, a dentist in California, has survived the curse—twice. The curse?

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Gass is a homosexual man whose only sexual attraction is to men significantly older than he is. Gass lost his first partner, 28 years his senior, through the slowly deteriorating effects of Lou Gehrig’s disease after they had been together for 13 years. After recovering from his grief, he found love again with a man 18 years older but endured another tragic loss when his second partner died of pancreatic cancer after they had spent 17 years together. Still a relatively young man, Gass might wonder whether or not to take a chance on loving an older man again. For him, however, the choice is between an older man or no man at all. Gass and his friends—all of whom had lost older life partners—have labeled their abiding sexual attraction “the curse of being attracted to older men.” I began to study same-sex relationships with age disparities while conducting research for my book, Finally Out: Letting Go of Living Straight. Gass and I started to correspond after he and his friends had read and discussed my essay, “Age as a Factor in Sexual Orientation and Attraction.” He wrote that in their discussion, some common themes emerged: Chester McLemore and Dr. Tom Gass. Source: Dr. Tom Gass, used with permission. 1. The younger men have more interest in sports than their partners and their homosexual peers who are attracted to men their own age. 2. The younger men tend to be more masculine than their homosexual peers who are attracted to men their own age. 3. The younger men prefer older men with endomorphic bodies (belly fat, strong bones, and sturdy thighs). While these observations are purely anecdotal and subjective, the comments resonated with some of my own observations. I would add another: 4. The younger man has a high need to please others. A young man once said to me, “I like men with rounded corners, they have all their sharp edges worn off.” It struck me as being true, both literally and metaphorically. Another younger man commented, “I like a man with a bit of a belly so I have somewhere to lay my head.” This parallels the same fascination that many heterosexual men have for women's breasts. The younger men I interviewed seemed drawn to men freed from the tyranny of testosterone, expressing their greater attraction to wisdom, stability, commitment, experience, and maturity. Dr. Tom Gass and Chester McLemore. Source: Dr. Tom Gass, used with permission. Gass went on to say that these relationships are often misunderstood, perhaps especially by the LGBTQ community. He wrote, “I struggle more to explain my attraction to older homosexual men to my homosexual friends than I do to my straight friends.” It's difficult to explain when you don't understand it yourself. What defines “age disparity in relationships”? An old rule of thumb of unknown origins prescribes, “Never date anyone less than half your age plus seven.” No one has collected reliable statistics, but age disparity seems to occur more frequently in homosexual relationships than in heterosexual ones. In 2016, the New York Times published an opinion piece by former Pennsylvania Senator Harris Wofford, who at 90 years old was planning to marry Matthew Charlton, his 40-year-old lover, whom he had been together with for 15 years. Senator Wofford had spent nearly half a century married to his wife, Clare, who died when they were both almost 70. Writing about Matthew, Wofford said, “To some, our bond is entirely natural, to others it comes as a strange surprise,” and this tension is reflected in the comments posted about the essay.













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